Jay Sadaraka
(1982-2000)
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2009 / Pauline, Missing Jay

Dear sweet Jay,

As 2009 comes in, I remember 1999. It was our best year. Ten years later seems impossible to imagine. So many lost hopes and dreams.

I miss you now, I miss you always and yet I never regret knowing you because you gave me so much. Whatever it was we had may not have a name but it can never be replaced.

So many things have changed. So many trials I have had to face alone but when things get really black, I remember that our souls were intertwined and if there is any way, I believe you are with me now.

Loving you and missing you always.

Unconditional means forever.

This rose will never die.

Love you my angel.

Always. Xox

terry loves you so much  / Chelle Patterson (terrys girl )
from the day i meet terry i knew all about is little bro jay and i know how much he hurts everyday without him. terry loves jay with all his heart and i see the hurt in his eyes everyday, when i gave birth to our baby boy cain terry neally lots both of us but i believe that jay was in that room with us that night and pulled cain and i throught it all. cain sometimes looks at the roof and justs smiles or has a little laught to him self, and i really think that he see's jay up there and they have a whole lot of fun together, i know jay that you can see our boy and you will watch over him, i just wish i got to meet you. i think about you all the time and i know one day ill get to meet u . xoxoxoxoxoxo chelle xoxoxox terrys missing you lots mate
My Thoughts & Prayers Are with You.........  / Stacey Streets (Angel Mommy To Aidan )
 I wish I had something helpful or cathartic to say that would ease your pain if even just a little bit. All I can say is that I truly, from the depths of my soul, understand your pain and loss. Even though I had Aidan for a just for a moment, no loss of a child is greater than another. I hope and pray that God gives you the strength, peace, and faith to survive this. It's a road no one wants to go down, but once you have, you can never come back. 
Thank you for sharing your angel with me. I know we don't physically know each other, but I feel that bereaved parents are connected forever. I admire you for being so strong, such a wonderful inspiration to others, and for being such a great mommy to your angel. God bless you and your family. 
Stacey Streets~Angel Mommy To Aidan~ I wish I had something helpful or cathartic to say that would ease your pain if even just a little bit. All I can say is that I truly, from the depths of my soul, understand your pain and loss. Even though I had Aidan for a just for a moment, no loss of a child is greater than another. I hope and pray that God gives you the strength, peace, and faith to survive this. It's a road no one wants to go down, but once you have, you can never come back. 
Thank you for sharing your angel with me. I know we don't physically know each other, but I feel that bereaved parents are connected forever. I admire you for being so strong, such a wonderful inspiration to others, and for being such a great mommy to your angel. God bless you and your family. 
Stacey Streets~Angel Mommy To Aidan~ I wish I had something helpful or cathartic to say that would ease your pain if even just a little bit. All I can say is that I truly, from the depths of my soul, understand your pain and loss. Even though I had Aidan for a just for a moment, no loss of a child is greater than another. I hope and pray that God gives you the strength, peace, and faith to survive this. It's a road no one wants to go down, but once you have, you can never come back. 
Thank you for sharing your angel with me. I know we don't physically know each other, but I feel that bereaved parents are connected forever. I admire you for being so strong, such a wonderful inspiration to others, and for being such a great mommy to your angel. God bless you and your family. 
Stacey Streets~Angel Mommy To Aidan~ http://ourlittleangel.memory-of.com/About.aspx

Missing You  / Paulne, Mising Jay (Everyting)
HE IS GONE

You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live in yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry, close your mind, be empty, turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want:
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

THINKING OF YOU JAY!  / Jane Einarson (I care )
 
I WISH UPON TONIGHT...  / Pauline, Missing My Life (Who knows? )

When you left me, there was no future…. Somehow I survived through the initial everything and the void…But I knew and know now, with every fibre of my being that I belonged to you and you belonged to me. That is just how it was.


And it is how it will be.


I was not meant to save Terry or Luke…or Adam…or any one else who came after...


I needed to save me. Never did!


When you left me, I promised you I wouldn’t be long.


I got sidetracked! Thought other people needed saving! Your martyr!


But now is good


I love you Jay.


Wherever you went, I wanna be there too!


Now is good!


Now, this is the seventh of everything.


How am I supposed to live without you?


And why do I want to?


The fight is over…


Will be with you soon.


I have tried to help the others but I miss you too much!!!


Just wanna feel a big hug!


Love you,


Always did,


But you know that!!!!


 


!


 

Blessings & care to Jay  / Jane Einarson (I care )
Dear Jay, Thinking about you & your special family this season & always. I pray that it is peaceful & gentle. God Bless.
Love & respect.
Jane ((Matthew's Mom))
Thinking of you  / Jess (Friend of Miss's )
Jay... please look out for Miss this December. Please make sure she carries your smile, your strength and your spirit through this year, into the next and all the rest to come. You are not forgotten, thought about constantly and by many more people than you would ever imagine. Both you and Miss should be proud of everything you overcame together and I know neither of you are alone - because you always have eachother. Thank you for keeping Miss strong and safe!  Love you both.... J xx
P.S - say hi to all who I love up there with you!! thanks :)
Happy 24th Birthday Angel!  / Pauline, Missing Jay Forever


This is the seventh birthday that Jay has not been with us. I miss his scamming smile, his laugh, his heart full of love and his head full of crazy ideas. I take hope in believing he is up there somewhere beyond a distant star, knowing he was loved and finally at peace. 
Jay changed my life forever.
I loved him.
He will always be in my heart and the hearts of those who loved him. 
For your birthday, Jay, I am gonna listen to each and every one of your songs and have a scotch for you.
I hope that others who love you do the same.
You were and are the wind beneath my wings. 
I love you.

Happy Birthday, Angel.
"At the going down of the sun, and in the morning, we shall remember him".  Our warrior and his own battles.

One day soon...  / Pauline, Missing Jay
My dear Jay,
One day soon I am gonna write your story, my story, our story.
It needs to be told.
Margaret and Luke get it but others need to know.
I am trying to give it perspective.
One day soon....
I love you and all that you gave me.
Forever....

I Didnt Know You Jay....But I Know You Were A Special Person...  / Abby Smith (No Relation )
Banting.... this site is so beautiful! i hope you didnt mind if i had a look...no words can explain how much this site has touched me.... i know he is with you and he always will be...... i hope he watches over you and im sure he is gratful for every moment the two of you shared.... he seemed like a special person..and im sure he was..... may god bless his soul..... forever...... =xXx= Love Abby....
P.S Don't worry...my dad will look after him........ i sure of it...
Love You Dahl xoxoxo
Thank you  / Jess

Although not having the pleasure of knowing Jay personally, I have seen the effect that he had on so many lives around him, especially your's Miss. The smile you get and the way your eyes shine are testament to the amount of love shared between you and Jay. This site is beautiful and you've done an amazing job at puting it together. Your limitless love for Jay is so beautiful and please just know that he's watching you, and everyone that he loved and loves him. Thank you for sharing this with me, and for everything you do without even knowing it. Thinking of you always. Love Jess xxx

Thanks.... / STEPHEN (ROY) NEILSEN (Brother)
Just like to thank you for all the effort you have put in to make this the beautifull site that it is ... Thanks heaps Pauline .........  Stephen.....
The Blessing - Words from the Booklet  / Pauline

MEMORIAL BLESSING


TO GIVE THANKS FOR THE LIFE OF


JAY DAVID SADARAKA


5th May, 2000


  


Dear Jay,


When you left us,


You took a special part of each of us with you.


That part can never be replaced.


Will never be replaced.


We will always miss you.


We will always love you.


We will never forget you.


Your laugh, your smile,


your scamming grin,


your generosity


and the way you loved us all.


We will remember you,


When camping,


when smoking and drinking,


At each and every party


and


in infinite other ways.


Our memories


of you


and


our never-ending love


will guarantee


that a part of you is with us too


just like a part of each of us is


with you.


 


OUR OWN GUARDIAN ANGEL NOW

BORN TO SHIMMER

5th May, 1982 – 12th January 2000

 

 

Footprints

 

One night I had a dream.

I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.

And across the skies flashed scenes from my life.

For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand.

One belonged to me and the other to the Lord.

 

When the last scene of my life flashed before me,

I looked back at the footprints in the sand.

I noticed that at times along the path of life,

there was only one set of footprints.

I also noticed that it happened

at the very lowest and saddest times of my life.

This really bothered me and I questioned the Lord about it.
“Lord, You said that once I decided to follow You,

You would walk with me all the way.

But I noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life,

There is only one set of footprints.

I don’t understand why in those times when I needed You most,

You would leave me.”

 

The Lord replied, “My precious, precious child,

I love you and I would never leave you

during your times of trial and suffering.

When you see only one set of footprints,

 it was then that I carried you.”

 

 


 

Pauline Thank you.  / Helen Sadaraka (Mother)
It is with the deepest  gratitude this short message is here. Pauline you have done a wonderful job on Jay's Memorial Site as my friend You couldn't have given me a nicer present. WE both loved Jay, we were there through good and not so good times but always together.  Jay is loved by so many His brothers,Nieces,Nephews we all loved him so very much he will live on in our hearts forever.
The Eulogy  / Pauline, Missing Jay




 

EULOGY
 FOR
JAY DAVID SADARAKA


West Chapel, Pinegrove Cemetery,

17th January,

2000


Delivered by Hereward Taylor

 


     

     Despite the many birthdates rumoured to be his, Jay was born on the 5th May, 1982, at Westmead Hospital.

      He was the adored son of Helen and of Jon and the beloved brother of Richard, Stephen, Terry and David. Jay was very dearly loved by Pauline, by Luke, by Mark, Nicole, Angela and Miranda. He was the greatly loved uncle of Louisa, Malcolm, Stephen, Cameron and Rachael and he was forever in the hearts of his Pop and Nana Sadaraka, his Aunty Ngere, Bobby, his cousins, relatives and many friends.
     
As a little boy, everyone instantly loved Jay. He was a beautiful, beautiful person, both in looks and nature.


     We all have outstanding, special memories of the person Jay was and we loved him so much.

      However, his own best memories were of being with Mark, with the brothers he admired so much, with his cousins and all their mates, camping at Old Ford Reserve, by Cox’s River, playing Ninjas in the Dark. Even then, Jay being Jay, scammed them all and drank all the water on the long trek back.
      He loved Open Days at the Army, his car, his job and Cat Stevens to the point of becoming very, very annoying.
      He loved going to Forster, picking mangoes and having a drink and a smoke or two … or three or four …He loved playing cricket with his mates and his nephews.
      
And he loved his mum so much.
      Jay had a huge heart. He spent many hours planning ways to finance the presents he bought people and gave people; Helen’s microwave, David’s pushbike, Mark’s shoes, Stephen’s shoes and so many others.
      He took time without pay to visit Nana Sadaraka at Rockdale when she came from the Cook Islands before Christmas.
W
e all like to remember how much he used to make us laugh:
    
* when he thought Terry had snakebite and wanted to go home
* lost on his pushbike in Noumea Street
* promising to wipe up, put the garbage out, pay you back the twenty, etc etc etc
* test driving a lot of other people’s very nice cars
* opening Terry and Angela’s garage door and renovating barbecues
* drawing Rachael pictures of Terry’s car 
*  being terrified of frogs and cane toads
 and buying roses and lilies on special.
      And let’s remember who those flowers were for. Pauline meant the world to Jay.
      For the last few years of his life, she was his best friend, his anchor and his rock.
     She helped him to become the person he wanted to be, the person we all came to be proud of; the job, the car the house. And he was proud and we were proud.
     They had a love that was never bound by time and which survived so many times. That love remained unchanged until the last.

     While none of us have the answers and none of us understand why Jay has left us, we at least have the consolation that he’d told us he loved us many times and we know he is now at peace.

      We loved him.

      We will always love him.

      And we don’t doubt that he’s watching us all now and smiling.



         Songs played:  “Oh Very Young” – Cat Stevens
         
“Where Do The Children Play?” – Cat Stevens           








 

There are no words....  / Nina
There are no words that will heal the hearts of those who grieve.  For Pauline and all who who loved Jay, know that the greatest tribute to one so special is seeing how much his spirit touched those around him. How much he will never cease to be because he will always be loved and never forgotten. Know that is forever at peace and smiles now, knowing that he will hold you close again.

May the Great Spirit bring you peace and comfort while you learn, every day, to live, while missing Jay.  Love to all.
(((Pauline))) / Darlene Wood
Hello Pauline, My name is Darlene and I work for the military at Fort Lewis Washington. I have been visiting well lurking 1000deaths web site for 5 years now since my 36 year old, little sister Cheryl, my only sibling commited suicide in feb 2000. My logon is littlebit but I have never posted. I just wanted to let you and all the others know that your postings have helped me in so many ways and your love and devotion to your special Jay has touched my heart. Jay was very fortunate to have you  in his life. Bless you Pauline and Happy Heavenly Birthday Jay
I'm sorry  / Connie (passerby)  Read >>
I'm sorry  / Connie (passerby)
To Jay's family and friends am so very very sorry for the loss of this beautiful young man.  My heart aches for all the young people i have come across on this website that have passed on at such a young age. My nephew passed on June 21, 2003 at the age of 19. He chose to end his life on that day  - the loss of any child is unbearable. My sister (his mom) has not been able to cope without him and its been 3 years. 

My heartfelt condolences to you and all his family. 



Connie - Sammy's aunt - http://sammypepe.memory-of.com
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Happy Birthday, Angel!!!  / Pauline, Missing Jay, Forever   Read >>
Happy Birthday, Angel!!!  / Pauline, Missing Jay, Forever


This is the seventh birthday that Jay has not been with us. I miss his scamming smile, his laugh, his heart full of love and his head full of crazy ideas. I take hope in believing he is up there somewhere beyond a distant star, knowing he was loved and finally at peace. 
Jay changed my life forever.
I loved him.
He will always be in my heart and the hearts of those who loved him. 
For your birthday, Jay, I am gonna listen to each and every one of your songs and have a scotch for you.
I hope that others who love you do the same.
You were and are the wind beneath my wings. 
I love you.

Happy Birthday, Angel.
"At the going down of the sun, and in the morning, we shall remember him".  Our warrior and his own battles.

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